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Message #43452

Board Name: England (Adoption Related)
Amanda Ashton Athens Dec 16, 2002
I have just spoken to my birth mother for the first time in 41 years. Having sent a letter telling her that I did not expect anything from her, telling her that I was happily married, living a more than fortunate life and that I merely wanted to know where I came from and that if she did not want to know me, then a short note would have sufficed.

I got no letter, even though I knew for sure that she had received mine, I called and heard only these few words from my birth mother. The conversation went:

Me: Hello, is that ......

Her: Yes

Me: This is ..........

Her: Yes

Me: Did you get my letter three months ago

Her: Yes

Me: Does that mean that you do not want anything to do with me?

Her: Yes. Goodbye.............

That was 41 years of motherly love, all in approximately 41 seconds! I had been warned of this, but I cannot say that it made it any easier. I am absolutely devastated.

Having said that, I do wish everyone the very best of luck, because I have spent two years reading the messages on this site, and I know that there are mothers out there that are only living to find their children. I truly hope that you are one of them.

Not bitter, but at the moment, desparately upset.
I'll get over it, because I have lived 41 years without a mother's love and I have to be so grateful that I have the love of a wonderful husband to compensate. That's good enough for me. I wish you all a very happy Christmas and a hopeful, lucky and prosperous New Year.


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