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Board Name: England (Adoption Related)
Keri Oxfordshire Feb 01, 2005
Date of Birth; 27-08-1970.
Birth Mothers Name; Elizabeth Thomas.
Place of Adoption; MEADOWCROFT (mother & baby hostel), POPE LANE, PRESTON, LANCASHIRE.
You were born on the date above, then moved with your birth mother to Meadowcroft, which is where you stayed until you were 8 months old.
With no options left and feeling worthless after the mental abuse your mother suffered during her time at Meadowcroft, she gave in and agreed to place you for adoption.
Your birth mother was introduced to your adoptive mother, who assured her that you would be well looked after and well educated as your adoptive father was/is a teacher.
She was then asked to sign a Pre Adoption Placement form, thus giving permission for you to live with this couple until the adoption was presented to the courts 6 months later, thus also giving your birth mother 6 months to change her mind. That was in April 1971.
However by the August 1971(only 4 months later) your birth mother had met and married my father. So off they both went to the social services to get you back, when to her horror she was very nicely told that she was too late, the adoption had gone through. You were gone!!
So with pen and paper in hand she went outside, sat on the kerb and wrote you a 4 paged letter, telling you how much she loved you and that she was sorry she was too late. The letter was handed in to the social services, and there it would stay for many years until you came to open your files.
A number of questions were asked as it didn't make any sense, but no answeres were given, and these questions remain unanswered after 34 years and still haunt your birth mother.
(1) Who signed the rest of the adoption forms as she didn't??
(2) Why was she told she had 6 months to change her mind when you were gone within 4??
(3) Why isn't she allowed copies of the forms they say she signed (DIDN'T SIGN)??
(4) Why isn't she allowed to know the adoption date, the actual date you became someone elses son??
There are many more questions but very hard to get answers, and most of them have been lies.
Your Birth mother was told that if the adoption did go ahead, your name was being changed to MARK, but you would keep your middle name, this way you'd always have something from your birth mother. Again this doesn't seem to of happened as I know a lady who visits the FRC in London on a regular basis, obviously adoption date is unknown, so she's had to search through very entry for 1971 and there's NO entry for a MARK WAYNE!!
Your birth mother has always loved you, and the few photo's she has of you are treasured. She would just like to know that your well and happy, and that you did have a good upbringing.
With all the secrecy surrounding your adoption, she's never known what happened to you.
All she can remember is the last time she saw you, the last cheeky smile you ever gave her, a smile thats been etched on her heart ever since.
If your reading this, and wish no contact with your birth family, we'll understand.
Your mother sends you all the love in the world, forever & always, and from myself - your little sister I love you Timothy, god bless you xxx
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